When a child is adopted, it is often thought that their previous traumatic experiences will automatically disappear. However, this is not always the case. In fact, many adopted children suffer from the effects of their childhood trauma long after they have been removed from the abusive environment.
This can be due to a number of factors. For example, some adoptees may feel like they are not worthy of love and support because they were given up by their birth parents. Others may feel like they are constantly being judged by others because of their adoption status. As a result, these adoptees may struggle to form healthy relationships with others and may struggle with self-esteem issues.
It is important to remember that childhood trauma does not go away automatically once a child is removed from their previous environment.Read more...
Success For Second Moms, Adoptive moms, pre-adoption trauma
If you're thinking about becoming an adoptive parent, or are in the process of adopting, you're probably aware of many challenges that come with the territory. From the paperwork and legalities to the physical and emotional tolls, there's no denying that adoption is a big undertaking.
What you may not be prepared for, however, are the pressures that come with being an adoptive parent over the long term. When you become an adoptive parent, you are signing up for a lifetime of love, laughter, and surprises. You might think that the biggest challenge you'll face as an adoptive parent is the initial adjustment period—getting to know your new child and helping them adjust to their new home.
But for many adoptive parents, the most challenging years are yet to come. In my program, Success For Second Moms I share about the life cycle of adoptive families and certain trouble spots to be aware of in each of the phases.Read more...
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How Churches Can Support Women who are Moms in Complex Families such as Adoptive Moms & Step-Moms
Just imagine…You're a mom, and you're not the child's first mom. They don’t automatically look to you as their home base, as “mom”. You feel alone, unsupported, and like you don't quite fit in anywhere, and while your church has been an integral part of your life for years, you’re feeling less and less connected, less and less understood, less and less supported.Read more...
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Becoming a parent is one of the most rewarding, but also challenging, experiences a person can have. I can tell you from experience that for adoptive moms, there are added challenges that come with raising children who have experienced early childhood traumas. In particular, losing the primary biological relationship with their first mom causes deep wounds.
Adoptive moms open their hearts and homes to children who need love and stability, and they provide a valuable service by helping to break the cycle of abuse and neglect. Dads too! Adoptive moms often face unique challenges, however, that can make their job even more difficult. This is why it's so important to validate the challenges they face and to offer support whenever possible.
It is important to support adoptive moms and provide validation for the added challenges they face in helping navigate through these challenges that spill over and affect not only the adopted child but the rest of the family, and sometimes...especially mom.