A Guide to Choosing & Pursuing Your Main Mom Objectives
Despite all the Crazy-making Distractions & Drama of your Adoptive/Blended Family!
The goal of every Second Mom (adoptive or other permanent mom raising a child she didn’t give birth to) is to be the best mom she can be for her child, right?!
But with the distractions, drama and (let’s call it what it is) dysfunction” that are so common in non-traditional families like ours” it can be hard to keep from losing track of those things that are most important or even know what real “success” even looks like for us. (Sometimes, it’s just getting through the day it seems!)
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Does your child or teen tend to overreact with excessive & prolonged drama or explosive behavior? Let’s talk about it…
WHEN THEIR OVERREACTING IS ACTUALLY A TRAUMA RESPONSE
…Today, we're diving deep into an essential trauma tip for adoptive moms. It's all about the ability to CALM DOWN – something that can be particularly challenging for traumatized kids. The key concept here revolves around understanding that their brains and bodies are not as efficient in down-regulating from a heightened state of amygdala activation.
Most adoptive moms and other second moms have lots of ideas, expectations, wishes & dreams about being successful in their new mom roles.
But as a practical matter, even after years in, second mom will often have a fuzzy definition (if any) of what it means for her to truly be successful in this non-traditional role. Or how this role impacts the other roles, relationships & areas of her life.
We get stuck wondering things like,
“How can I get her to stop lying?” or
“Why won’t he do what I say without blowing up?”
When you’re unsure what to do, it’s hard to move forward & easy to feel like you’re failing.
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