Starting from Behind as a Second Mom

Starting from Behind as a Second Mom
Always feeling behind? 
“When all of you is still not enough”

Being an adoptive or step mom can feel like you’ve embarked upon a daunting task to try to fill the void that your child already has. I know those types of feelings. It can feel like a tremendous responsibility. But as adoptive or step moms we must remember that we cannot make up for any losses in our children's lives – but instead can focus on providing stability for all of our children. Even as they push against that very stability they need. 

The Feeling of Insufficiency 
It is very common for adoptive or step moms to feel behind and that they are not enough. This feeling of insufficiency may stem from the idea that they do not have the same connection as the biological parent, leading them to feel as if they are lacking something. However, this feeling of insufficiency is normal and it does not have to define the relationship with your child. 
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The (Unexpected) Pressures of Being an Adoptive Parent

The (Unexpected) Pressures of Being an Adoptive Parent
If you're thinking about becoming an adoptive parent, or are in the process of adopting, you're probably aware of many challenges that come with the territory. From the paperwork and legalities to the physical and emotional tolls, there's no denying that adoption is a big undertaking. 

What you may not be prepared for, however, are the pressures that come with being an adoptive parent over the long term. When you become an adoptive parent, you are signing up for a lifetime of love, laughter, and surprises. You might think that the biggest challenge you'll face as an adoptive parent is the initial adjustment period—getting to know your new child and helping them adjust to their new home.

But for many adoptive parents, the most challenging years are yet to come. In my program, Success For Second Moms I share about the life cycle of adoptive families and certain trouble spots to be aware of in each of the phases. 
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Success For Second Moms, Adoptive moms, pre-adoption trauma

Churches - we need you! Tips to Support Second Moms

Churches - we need you! Tips to Support Second Moms
How Churches Can Support Women who are Moms in Complex Families such as Adoptive Moms & Step-Moms

Just imagine…You're a mom, and you're not the child's first mom. They don’t automatically look to you as their home base, as “mom”.  You feel alone, unsupported, and like you don't quite fit in anywhere, and while your church has been an integral part of your life for years, you’re feeling less and less connected, less and less understood, less and less supported.
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Church support, adoptive moms, step-moms, blended families, complex families, second mom, Legacy Living,
 
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