Q. What makes summer more difficult sometimes for second moms and our families?
A. One biggie is that Attachment issues in particular are common among adopted children and sometimes step-children as well.
They can be caused by a number of factors, including:
early trauma experiences in the womb or in foster care or orphanages;
separation from their birth parents
Difficulty with adjustment to their new family, culture, and more.
Attachment issues can manifest in a number of ways, including:
Difficulty forming close relationships such as in family
Fear of abandonment that can be unconscious and be triggered with change in routines, travel, etc.
Anxiety that can make regular summer activities way more difficult to navigate
Behavioral problems that can sabotage summer plans for the whole family
If you are your child's second mom, it is important to be aware of the signs of attachment issues and know that they are on a spectrum and not always consistent. And they can be compounded by additional conditions.
Q. What are some things to look out for?
A. Some of the common behavioral challenges with transitioning to summer for adopted children with attachment difficulties may include:
Regression in behavior, such as bedwetting, thumb sucking, or clinging.
Increased anxiety or fear, especially around separation from loved ones.
Changes in mood, such as irritability, sadness, or anger.
Increased acting out behaviors, such as defiance, aggression, or destructiveness.
Changes in sleep or eating habits.
Loss of interest in activities that they used to enjoy.
These challenges can be difficult for both the child and the parent. A Summer Success Plan can help.
I can help you craft a workable summer plan that will allow you to enjoy the summer months without feeling overwhelmed.
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