As we gather together in our shared journey of parenting teens with significant early childhood trauma histories, it's essential to pause and reflect on the complex behaviors we face daily. I've been thinking about the historical roles of children and how they might offer us insights into better supporting our young ones today.
In times past, by the age of 15, 16, or 17, young people were often thrust into adult roles, shouldering responsibilities that mirrored those of grown-ups. They worked hard, contributing to their households or finding their place in the world independently. This was the expectation, and it channeled their youthful energy and drive into productive endeavors.
Whether you're raising adopted children, stepchildren, or the children of relatives, you're navigating an incredible journey filled with both significant challenges and rich rewards.
As we venture into this new year, it's the perfect time to consider how we can set healthy personal boundaries that empower us to thrive as individuals and parents. Boundaries are essential for setting yourself up for success as a second mom!
Unless you're new to my content (or just missed it somehow) you may have heard about my authentic modeling method and wondered just what I was talking about. Today, you’ll be happy to learn that I’m going to show you everything you need to know about my authentic modeling method but were afraid to ask, including how to differentiate it from its cousins too "tough love" and the "gentle parenting" trap/trend. I hope this post encourages you that you don't have to choose between either extreme. You'll be ready to own your second mom role knowing you can maximize your positive parental influence while remaining true to your values and personal commitments.
