Ongoing Needs for Acceptance & Belonging


Today we’re talking about acceptance.

Acceptance may seem like a given in your family; of course you accept your children!  You accept all your children — your bio kids, your adopted kids, your step kids —  that should just be a given…right? 

Let’s look at the example of marriage. 

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4 Ways to Re-Build Self-Trust for 2nd Moms


Do you think of yourself as trustworthy?
 
On a scale of 1-10 where do you think you are? 
Where on that scale would you say most people would put you back before your child/children came along? 

In our complex adoptive and blended families trust can often be lacking from our non-biological children, not because we aren’t trustworthy, but due to their own backgrounds. And that can bleed over onto others.
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Secret Risks for Second Moms: Burnout, Compassion Fatigue or Secondary Trauma


You May Be at Greater Risk for Burnout, Compassion Fatigue or Secondary Trauma!

As an adoptive mom you may be at a heightened risk for burnout, compassion fatigue or secondary trauma as primary caregiver for high need children and teens.  In many adoptive families the children have suffered an enormous degree of trauma and in particular the loss of not only their first mother but other caregivers as well in their formative years. This can impact them long-term in various ways, complicating your role as their parent-caregiver. 





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