If you've adopted a child (or three!) in the past year or so, despite getting into a routine and getting to know each other better, you feel a sense of loss as the reality of your "new normal" has set in.
You may find yourself thinking wistfully of those pre-adoption days and what you have essentially given up.
Don’t Gaslight Yourself
Don’t gaslight yourself. Your feelings of loss and grief are valid. You will all likely experience them in the days, weeks, months, years to come. You’ll continue to have adjustments to make. You’ll continue to have opportunities to model moving through grief and loss to your children.
You may know that my tagline is “standing in the gap for second moms“ — so you may wonder,
what gap? Where is this gap?
Do you know what the gap is in your life?
See if this rings a bell:
ENTERING THE GAP...
The gap I have recognized is when you know something is wrong, and as mom you have identified that there’s a real problem that needs to be addressed and you begin to reach out for information, for resources, for help.
You may not know exactly what to call it.
You may not know if there’s something diagnosable…or what the cause is…even where to look for answers. But that doesn’t stop you. You’re told not to worry or given trite responses or over-simplified advice.
You don’t know exactly what to do...
Read more...Today we’re talking about acceptance.
Acceptance may seem like a given in your family; of course you accept your children! You accept all your children — your bio kids, your adopted kids, your step kids — that should just be a given…right?
