Adoptive Mama, Are You Sinking into an Accountability Trap?


AS CHRISTIANS WE DON’T SIMPLY WANT BEHAVIORS TO BE MANAGED, WE WANT HEARTS TO BE TRANSFORMED AND LIVES TO BE TRANSFORMED. 

We can’t do that on our own because we aren’t God, but we can be tools that God uses in the lives of our children… when we don’t overstep our bounds. 

And the accountability traps that I see adoptive moms falling into (and fall into myself) can hinder rather than help our children in the transformation of becoming self-accountable.
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Ongoing Needs for Acceptance & Belonging


Today we’re talking about acceptance.

Acceptance may seem like a given in your family; of course you accept your children!  You accept all your children — your bio kids, your adopted kids, your step kids —  that should just be a given…right? 

Let’s look at the example of marriage. 

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Natural Drive for Autonomy in Overdrive


The Drive to Develop Personal Autonomy in Adoptive Families is Natural…

Personal autonomy in a nutshell is the sense of self-governance and the freedom to make your own choices. 

And in making our own choices we are able to practice the exercise of self-control.  

As Christians we know the Bible teaches us that self-control comes from God’s Holy Spirit and is listed in Galatians as a fruit of the Spirit.  
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