Adoptive Moms & Seeds of Love

Despite growing up a farm girl. I’m not much of a gardener. 
I’ve done enough to admire the work and commitment of those who are. 

Ever planted a flower bed or vegetable garden with a very young child? 

You likely didn’t require them to do all of the work themselves. You probably did some prep work to acquire the seeds and get the soil ready. And I imagine you let them do the most fun and most pivotal part — planting the seeds. 

Doing the fun part helps motivate us to do the harder parts. As moms we have big jobs in the lives of our children and I know that as a Christian woman you are committed to do this important God-given job to the fullest (or else you feel demoralized and defeated).  


Are You an Adoptive or Step-Mom Who's Living in the GAP?

You may know that my tagline is “standing in the gap for second moms“ — so you may wonder, 
what gap? Where is this gap? 

Do you know what the gap is in your life? 

See if this rings a bell:


The gap I have recognized is when you know something is wrong, and as mom you have identified that there’s a real problem that needs to be addressed and you begin to reach out for information, for resources, for help.  

You may not know exactly what to call it. 

You may not know if there’s something diagnosable…or what the cause is…even where to look for answers. But that doesn’t stop you. You’re told not to worry or given trite responses or over-simplified advice. 

You don’t know exactly what to do...


Adoptive Parents: The Tightrope Walk of Caregiving

Does Your Adopted Child Have Lingering Effects of Their Prior Trauma?
When a child is adopted, it is often thought that their previous traumatic experiences will automatically disappear. However, this is not always the case. In fact, many adopted children suffer from the effects of their childhood trauma long after they have been removed from the abusive environment.

This can be due to a number of factors. For example, some adoptees may feel like they are not worthy of love and support because they were given up by their birth parents. Others may feel like they are constantly being judged by others because of their adoption status. As a result, these adoptees may struggle to form healthy relationships with others and may struggle with self-esteem issues.

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