When Their Overreacting is Actually a Trauma Response

Does your child or teen tend to overreact with excessive & prolonged drama or explosive behavior? Let’s talk about it…

When their overreacting is actually a trauma response


…Today, we're diving deep into an essential trauma tip for adoptive moms. It's all about the ability to CALM DOWN – something that can be particularly challenging for traumatized kids. The key concept here revolves around understanding that their brains and bodies are not as efficient in down-regulating from a heightened state of amygdala activation.

Now, let's break that down. 

Amygdala Activation 

When a child has experienced trauma, their amygdala—the part of the brain that processes emotions and triggers the body's fight-or-flight response—becomes hyperactive. This heightened state means that they remain on high alert for longer periods and find it incredibly challenging to calm down. It's not just about emotional regulation; it's a physiological response.

As adoptive moms, it's crucial to recognize that what may seem like an overreaction or a deliberate refusal to calm down is actually a reflection of the trauma they've endured. Their ability to settle down takes more time and space than you might initially feel is necessary. Understand that this extra time and space are not only helpful but essential for their healing process.

Practicing the Pause

With this understanding we can  recognize the benefit to pressing pause on addressing whatever the causal factor was with our child and first support them through the calm down process.

 So, how can you support your child in these moments of heightened stress? Especially when you’re stressed too! 

Here are a few tips:


1.  Stay Calm Yourself: 
Your calmness can serve as an anchor for your child. Breathe deeply, speak softly, and maintain a steady, reassuring presence.

2.  Create a Safe Space:
Ensure that your home environment feels safe and comforting. This can be their room, a cozy corner, or anywhere they can retreat to feel secure.

3.  Practice Patience:
Give them the time they need to calm down. Understand that rushing the process can exacerbate their anxiety.

4.  Use Comforting Tools: 
You can trial & error this. It might help to incorporate calming essential oils or a weighted blanket, even noise cancelling headphones and hard candy to aid in creating a relaxing atmosphere depending on your child’s preferences. 

These same supportive measures can be helpful for you too! 

Remember, this journey requires compassion and understanding…for your child as well as yourself. You're not alone in this. I invite you to join our “Circle of Second Moms” guided support group, where you can find guidance tailored for adoptive moms navigating similar challenges. 




And as always, 
KEEP LEARNING - KEEP GROWING - KEEP LOVING
💜🩷♥️
Dawn









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Dawn T. Baggett
Post Adoption (Mom) Coach 

“STANDING IN THE GAP FOR 2ND MOMS”


Are you an adoptive mom? 
Me too!

Publishing this podcast & companion blog is one way that I stand in the gap for second moms with similar challenges to what I’ve gone through myself as an adoptive mom. 

Listen & subscribe to the podcast for free on your favorite listening platform.  
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The companion Circle of Second Moms Facebook group is a place to go deeper on topics that we touch on in the public podcast episodes along with guided journaling and more. 
Tap the JOIN LINK HERE for group access. 

Group members who want next level support through private coaching with me are invited to apply for  private coaching by scheduling an application call. To do that click HERE.

Through these avenues it’s my desire that many adoptive moms are able to close the gap and feel fully supported in a way that align with their Christian values and helps them grow in their faith while feeling more confident and empowered in their mom roles and beyond. 



DISCLAIMER: I’m a coach, not a doctor nor a therapist. As a coach I do not offer mental or medical health diagnosis, treatment or cures.  Furthermore, I am no longer a practicing attorney and do not offer individual legal advice. For individual advice related to your own personal situation I recommend you seek out an appropriate professional. Coaching may fill a spot in your overall support network.