As we gather together in our shared journey of parenting teens with significant early childhood trauma histories, it's essential to pause and reflect on the complex behaviors we face daily. I've been thinking about the historical roles of children and how they might offer us insights into better supporting our young ones today.
In times past, by the age of 15, 16, or 17, young people were often thrust into adult roles, shouldering responsibilities that mirrored those of grown-ups. They worked hard, contributing to their households or finding their place in the world independently. This was the expectation, and it channeled their youthful energy and drive into productive endeavors.
Whether you're raising adopted children, stepchildren, or the children of relatives, you're navigating an incredible journey filled with both significant challenges and rich rewards.
As we venture into this new year, it's the perfect time to consider how we can set healthy personal boundaries that empower us to thrive as individuals and parents. Boundaries are essential for setting yourself up for success as a second mom!
If you've adopted a child (or three!) in the past year or so, despite getting into a routine and getting to know each other better, you feel a sense of loss as the reality of your "new normal" has set in.
You may find yourself thinking wistfully of those pre-adoption days and what you have essentially given up.
Don’t Gaslight Yourself
Don’t gaslight yourself. Your feelings of loss and grief are valid. You will all likely experience them in the days, weeks, months, years to come. You’ll continue to have adjustments to make. You’ll continue to have opportunities to model moving through grief and loss to your children.
