Secret Risks for Second Moms: Burnout, Compassion Fatigue or Secondary Trauma


You May Be at Greater Risk for Burnout, Compassion Fatigue or Secondary Trauma!

As an adoptive mom you may be at a heightened risk for burnout, compassion fatigue or secondary trauma as primary caregiver for high need children and teens.  In many adoptive families the children have suffered an enormous degree of trauma and in particular the loss of not only their first mother but other caregivers as well in their formative years. This can impact them long-term in various ways, complicating your role as their parent-caregiver. 





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NEW LENSES! For Complex Families

Season 4, Episode 3


Have you ever been to the eye doctor and found out that your vision prescription has changed? 

Similarly, there are factors that can limit our relational vision, and it can change over time as well.  It can be helpful to our vision of our relationships to look through different lenses.  

Below I share some thoughts on different types of lenses for you to consider - especially if there are any hints or clues that your current lens might be causing you to miss something. 
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Christian Adoptive Parents’ 4 Foundational Commitments

Season 4, Episode 2
 

Four Foundational Responsibilities of Christian Adoptive Parents 


Today we're discussing the foundational responsibilities of parenting: protection, provision, and guidance. Plus, particularly if you are a Christian it is crucial to pray for each of your children and your family persistently. 

#1 - Protection is about keeping your children safe from physical or psychological harm. It can involve a variety of issues that can come up such as shielding them from dangers such as drugs and alcohol, protecting their innocence in terms of exposure to inappropriate topics or activities, providing physical boundaries around the home, enforcing rules that keep your kids away from potentially dangerous situations, setting limits on screen time and internet usage, and more. If this all sounds overwhelming, I totally get it. And I’ll remind you of the old saying, “Don’t borrow trouble”  a biblical principle found in Jesus’ famous “Sermon on the Mount” in Matthew 6:34 –

“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. 
Each day has enough trouble of its own.” 
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