Adoptive Parents: The Tightrope Walk of Caregiving

When a child is adopted, it is often thought that their previous traumatic experiences will automatically disappear. However, this is not always the case. In fact, many adopted children suffer from the effects of their childhood trauma long after they have been removed from the abusive environment.

This can be due to a number of factors. For example, some adoptees may feel like they are not worthy of love and support because they were given up by their birth parents. Others may feel like they are constantly being judged by others because of their adoption status. As a result, these adoptees may struggle to form healthy relationships with others and may struggle with self-esteem issues.

It is important to remember that childhood trauma does not go away automatically once a child is removed from their previous environment.
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The (Unexpected) Pressures of Being an Adoptive Parent

The (Unexpected) Pressures of Being an Adoptive Parent
If you're thinking about becoming an adoptive parent, or are in the process of adopting, you're probably aware of many challenges that come with the territory. From the paperwork and legalities to the physical and emotional tolls, there's no denying that adoption is a big undertaking. 

What you may not be prepared for, however, are the pressures that come with being an adoptive parent over the long term. When you become an adoptive parent, you are signing up for a lifetime of love, laughter, and surprises. You might think that the biggest challenge you'll face as an adoptive parent is the initial adjustment period—getting to know your new child and helping them adjust to their new home.

But for many adoptive parents, the most challenging years are yet to come. In my program, Success For Second Moms I share about the life cycle of adoptive families and certain trouble spots to be aware of in each of the phases. 
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Success For Second Moms, Adoptive moms, pre-adoption trauma

Episode 11 | How to Benefit Children Through Imperfect Parenting

 Episode 11 | How to Benefit Children Through Imperfect Parenting

Before we get to the notes from this podcast episode you might've read the post title and wondered if I'd made a mistake, thinking it should've been "How to Benefit Children Through Despite Imperfect Parenting." While I've caught a few mistakes and typos in some of my content this week, pushing past my own perfectionism I decided to leave well enough alone.   But in the case of this title, there's no mistake.   Read on or listen to the episode to find out why your imperfections and mistakes can benefit your children.  And remember that God can redeem us AND our mistakes if we turn to him and trust that he can and will do so. 



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