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An adoptive mom who has spent years not only studying, but living the life of a second mom in a complex family, I learned that there are commonalities among this population and that the gap in support is something that is all too prevalent for many moms and families. Especially as a Christian mom who poured myself into my family, used to problem-solving and searching & finding whatever was needed, set high expectations for myself, and had a good track record as a parent, the lack of resources and anti-support for the mounting challenges in my adoptive family felt unreal. Then I learned…It wasn’t just me! And it’s not just you & your family either.
ARE YOU LIVING IN THE GAP?
Adoption is not a magic wand.
Whole families are being left to flounder with predictable struggles that often come with mid-to-severe attachment challenged children with a history of developmental trauma in early childhood, especially as those children reach their early teen years.
•In the gap, marriages often fall apart under the strain
•In the gap, moms often bear an enormous degree of opposition & aggression which gets more dangerous as their children age
•In the gap, outsiders frequently experience a very different child than the family at home, especially mom
•In the gap, trying to use traditional parenting methods & general parenting advice that work well for regular households is insufficient & can even backfire
•In the gap, traditional family settings are unsustainable with some children with severe attachment challenges
•In the gap moms can feel like prisoners in their own homes
•In the gap moms may be at risk for PTSD, compassion fatigue,
And yet as a parent…this mom feels the blame and shame when her child doesn’t fit the traditional family mold; when she’s made adjustment after adjustment to fit the family & home environment around the increasingly difficult behaviors of this growing child.
And she seeks help…but finds
Rather than the needed help & understanding she receives blame;
She is either blown off when things aren’t bad enough…
…or vilified when things get too bad.
The Success For Second Moms program helps to fill that GAP...
These results are waiting for you...