You've never seen anything like this before!
An adoptive mom myself, I’ve learned that there are commonalities among this population and that the GAP in support is something that is all too familiar for many adoptive moms and families.
A Christian mom who poured myself into my family, accustomed to problem-solving and searching & finding whatever was needed, setting high expectations for myself and my children, I had a good track record as a parent. But when my family and I needed support, the lack of community resources and anti-support for the mounting challenges in my adoptive family felt unreal.
Then I learned…It wasn’t just me! And it’s not just you & your family either. You are not alone.
ARE YOU LIVING IN THE GAP?
Adoption is not a magic wand.
Whole families are being left to flounder with predictable struggles & patterns that often come with mid-to-severe attachment challenged children with a history of developmental trauma in early childhood, especially as those children reach their early teen years when risky behaviors often begin or intensify.
Whereas before, while the children were younger, your parental concerns were blown off as not that bad… suddenly it’s gotten too bad! No one is willing or even seems to know how to help & by the way… you are being blamed for “letting” things get so out of control.
Sound familiar?
In the GAP >>>
>>> Marriages often fall apart under the strain
>>> Moms often bear an enormous degree of opposition & aggression which gets more dangerous as their children age
>>> Outsiders frequently experience a very different child than the family at home, especially mom
>>> Traditional parenting methods & general parenting advice that work well for regular households is insufficient & can even backfire
>>> Traditional family settings are unsustainable with some children with severe attachment challenges
>>> Moms can feel like prisoners in their own homes
>>> Moms may be at risk for PTSD, compassion fatigue,
>>> and worse…
And yet as a parent…this mom often feels the blame & shame:
— when her child doesn’t fit the traditional family mold;
— when she’s made adjustment after adjustment to fit the family & home environment around increasingly difficult behaviors of this growing child;
— when her support people are unsupportive
And she seeks help in all the "normal" places…but finds
THE GAP
Rather than the needed help & understanding she receives blame;
She is either blown off when things aren’t bad enough…
…or vilified when things get too bad.
The Success For Second Moms program helps to fill that GAP...
These results are waiting for you...