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(--) When Their Words Cut Deep - Overcoming with Faith

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Luke 6:26 - Woe to you when everyone speaks well of you, for that is how their ancestors treated the false prophet.

How Do You Overcome the deep wounds of hurtful, mocking words?


The old mantra, “Sticks & stones may hurt my bones but words will never hurt me”...well that’s a myth. It’s just not true.  

In fact, sometimes physical wounds may heal while the wounds from hurtful words grow more damaging over time.  What can we do to keep these wounds, from damaging words that were spoken to or about us, from festering, becoming infected, and spreading throughout every area of our lives.

You've probably been hurt by other's comments to a degree. Smaller offenses we learn (hopefully) to just let it go.  But others can be so big and make such an impact, it's really not so easy.  They may come from people we least expect.  They may touch on a vulnerable subject.  They may get to us more as the hurtful words are compounded over time.  

Imagine a time when hurtful words were spoken that cut you like a knife.  It was awful. But since you took steps to protect yourself and contain the injury to your heart, soon you found you could think about or be reminded about the incident and 

•remain calm and confident

•keep it from ruining your day

•interact with the person/people involved with zero anxiety or dread

So what can help in addition to time?  

Time may be needed but time alone won’t necessarily heal your word wounds. 

  • It may help to re-frame our expectations.  As we learn from the verse in Luke, when everyone speaks well of us we should take that as a red flag!  If we’re speaking and standing for truth we can expect hurtful, mocking words to be spoken against us.  

  • Do your work.  Just as with other wounds, though the one hurting is not the one at fault, but they ARE the one who has to do the work related to recovery.  

  • Forgive - but don’t expect forgiveness to magically erase the hurt.  While forgiveness can definitely aid recovery (and non-forgiveness impede recovery), it’s NOT the same as recovery.  Some would advise forgive and forget and that’s it.  But in reality, there can be some word hurts that need more recovery time and to go through a process of healing and new growth.  We can support or hinder this process of course, not only through unforgiveness, but other ways as well, such as denial or minimizing, or neglect of the injury, and even re-injury.

  • Consider the source - Consider that the person saying hurtful things to or about you may be speaking from a misunderstanding, a different viewpoint or belief system, their own agenda, their own hurts and fears.  In short, the things they're saying may be more about them than about you.

  • TLC for your heart -  Just as with physical wounds, word wounds may need some TLC attention to keep them from getting worse. This can take different forms. You may need to seek out a counselor to work through deep-seated injuries.  


Do you have any neglected wounds that could use some TLC?  Leave me a message - I’d be delighted to hear from you. 


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Dawn T. Baggett
Post Adoption (Mom) Coach 

“STANDING IN THE GAP FOR SECOND MOMS in Adoptive & Blended Families

As a Certified LifeMapping(R) Coach, Dawn helps Christian adoptive moms navigate the challenges of their non-traditional families with their own brand of (faith fueled) success!



DISCLAIMER: I’m a coach, not a doctor nor a therapist. As a coach I do not offer mental or medical health diagnosis, treatment or cures.  Furthermore, I am no longer a practicing attorney and do not offer individual legal advice. For individual advice related to your own personal situation I recommend you seek out an appropriate professional. Coaching may fill a spot in your overall support network. 

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Dawn Baggett & Post Adoption Coaching

 

Hi there, I'm Dawn Baggett! 

As a mom in an adoptive family that includes the blending of both, biological and adopted children, I've been through it all—navigating attachment issues, trauma, special needs and chronic illness...with challenges & chaos that have both tested and refined my Christian faith.   

In addition to my own personal parenting experiences, my law degree from the University of Alabama, various certificates and courses on topics ranging from coaching to trauma to relationships, as well as my research & observations of the experiences of others have all brought invaluable insights into supporting adoptive moms like myself.  I found that patterns and dynamics that I struggled with were often the SAME ones that were repeated again and again in other homes of adoptive families like mine and within those of similar "second moms" like step-moms and kinship caregivers who are raising children and teens that have had a break (for whatever reason) from their first mom. 

I truly believe in the power of faith-driven coaching to support "second moms" navigating the unique challenges of raising children with these often-complex backgrounds. My mission is to stand with you, offering guidance and understanding when the rest of your world seems unsure how to help, or even multiplies the problems that you are working so hard to overcome for your child and your family. 

If you're ready to continue your journey with a desire to walk out your faith in your family and mom role in particular, I'm here to be in your corner. Let's connect and explore how we can put together a personal plan that serves you! 

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Dawn

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