Do you feel like you’re constantly on the defensive? Having accusations flung at you on what seems like a daily basis? From big accusations from the outside to constant smaller accusations inside the household holding you responsible for, well, everything!
This used to be me. So I know how it feels. And it’s important for us to discern what’s truly our responsibility and to own up to it when we’ve missed the mark.
It’s important to identify misplaced guilt & blame that you as an adoptive mom may face, but not always to strike out in defensiveness. 
We have a little booklet from our Sunday school class made up of verses submitted by different members in the class; one member submitted this verse: Isaiah 54:17 “no weapon forged against you will prevail, and he will refute every tongue that accuses you. ‘This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, and this is their vindication from me,’ declares the Lord”
Another verse that a different member submitted was Hebrews 11:1 - “now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen” We think of that verse, of course in reference to our ultimate future in heaven, with Jesus, with God our Father, a perfect world, where there is no more sin, there’s no more crying… there’s more no more death! 🙌 We have that hope as Christians.
And I think that same faith in the promises of God, applies not only for our eternal home in heaven but also for this present world, including situations like in the first first where it talks about accusations and promises vindication from the Lord.
Oftentimes we moms may feel the need to defend ourselves from blaming and accusations that occur in our complex families & relationships. There may be a great deal of accusations, blaming, and feeling like you are constantly on the defensive like you have to prove yourself like you want to be vindicated against these arrows from Satan that are coming at you. Perhaps your husband feels that way too.
And this verse gives me great hope and understanding that I don’t always have to be the one, nor can I to vindicate myself. I don’t have to defend myself against every accusation. I can rest in the knowledge that ultimately, God will be the one who will give me that vindication against false accusations and blame that is misplaced.
WHEN WE KNOW THAT SOMEONE MORE POWERFUL & ABLE THAN WE ARE HAS OUR BACKS, WE CAN REST IN THAT KNOWLEDGE, SETTING A POWERFUL EXAMPLE TO OUR CHILDREN AND OTHERS.
What an example to my children that would be! Of course, I haven’t always provided the best example in this area. I have been overly defensive at times. I’m still working on me. And I encourage you to keep working on yourself too…another way we can set the example for our kids, even the grown up ones…through our “authentic modeling” which is a one of the key pieces in my coaching method for those who want to work one one one with me in the Success For Second Moms - 90 Day Reset program. If you’re ready for a quick reset I invite you to put your name on the waitlist to schedule your application call with me today.
And as always,
keep learning, keep growing & keep loving.
💜🩷♥️
Dawn
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Post Adoption (Mom) Coach
“STANDING IN THE GAP FOR 2ND MOMS”
Dawn Baggett is a podcaster and thought leader in Christian post adoption. As a Certified LifeMapping(R) Coach, Dawn helps Christian adoptive moms navigate the challenges of their non-traditional families with their own brand of success!
DISCLAIMER: I’m a coach, not a doctor nor a therapist. As a coach I do not offer mental or medical health diagnosis, treatment or cures. Furthermore, I am no longer a practicing attorney and do not offer individual legal advice. For individual advice related to your own personal situation I recommend you seek out an appropriate professional. Coaching may fill a spot in your overall support network.
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