If your adopted child has no memories or very limited memories about their life prior to coming to live with you, does that mean that any trauma they suffered has no effect because they don't remember any of it?
Let's find out.
This episode of 2nd Moms Circle for Christian Adoptive Moms is a bonus Tuesday Trauma Tip. I'm Dawn Baggett, your host and post-adoption mom coach. Understand that I am not a doctor or a therapist, and nothing in this podcast content is offered as medical or mental health diagnoses, treatment, or cure.
That said, it's my goal to keep these bonus episodes short. So, here's your trauma tip for today:
Today's Tuesday Trauma Tip
Do not rely on what a child explicitly remembers to judge whether some past experience or trauma affects them in the present.
Just because they were “too young to remember” or can't recall prior early childhood, or even pre-birth traumas, it doesn't mean that a child isn't affected and doesn't have lingering effects of an earlier trauma.
I wonder how understanding this Tuesday Trauma Tip can help you today in interacting with your child, your teen, or even your young adult who may have been affected by early childhood trauma.
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And as always,
KEEP LEARNING - KEEP GROWING - KEEP LOVING
💜🩷♥️
Dawn
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Post Adoption (Mom) Coach
“STANDING IN THE GAP FOR SECOND MOMS in Adoptive & Blended Families
As a Certified LifeMapping(R) Coach, Dawn helps Christian adoptive moms navigate the challenges of their non-traditional families with their own brand of (faith fueled) success!
DISCLAIMER: I’m a coach, not a doctor nor a therapist. As a coach I do not offer mental or medical health diagnosis, treatment or cures. Furthermore, I am no longer a practicing attorney and do not offer individual legal advice. For individual advice related to your own personal situation I recommend you seek out an appropriate professional. Coaching may fill a spot in your overall support network.
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Copyright © 2025 Dawn T. Baggett, JD - All rights reserved
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Despite growing up a farm girl. I’m not much of a gardener.
I’ve done enough to admire the work and commitment of those who are.
Ever planted a flower bed or vegetable garden with a very young child?
You likely didn’t require them to do all of the work themselves. You probably did some prep work to acquire the seeds and get the soil ready. And I imagine you let them do the most fun and most pivotal part — planting the seeds.
Doing the fun part helps motivate us to do the harder parts. As moms we have big jobs in the lives of our children and I know that as a Christian woman you are committed to do this important God-given job to the fullest (or else you feel demoralized and defeated).
Welcome to Tuesday's Trauma Tips here on the 2nd Moms Circle podcast for Christian Adoptive Moms. I'm Dawn Baggett, your host. Let's get started.
Today, I'm sharing a Tuesday Trauma Tip. Our Trauma Tips on Tuesdays are going to be shorter episodes. That's the plan in between our regular episodes that come out later in the week.
So for today's Tuesday Trauma Tip, let's just dive in. Attachment begins before birth. Assaults from drugs, alcohol, nutritional deficits, physical trauma, and emotional trauma, all kinds of these things can and do affect the preborn child.
brain growth before & after age three
80 to 85% of the brain is developed by age three. So in many cases, your adopted child or children did not even come into your world until after this age. Now, after the time of rapid development, the brain still retains some plasticity.
Plasticity meaning that it can still be changed, and it can still grow new pathways. And progress or change can still be made. A child's upper brain actually continues to develop, albeit at a slower pace, throughout childhood.
This brain region, the upper brain, controls reason, impulse control, empathy, memory, and decision making. So you can understand why these areas from
this upper brain region are so important in just the development and the functionality of your child for their life, for their entire life. While this can be frustrating for us as parents, this knowledge that I just went over, it can also be encouraging to know that there is still room for progress.
How does knowing this information help you to meet your child where they are now, while also simultaneously holding space for growth in these important areas?
Message me or hop over into the Facebook group, and let's continue this discussion over there. Thanks for listening, and I hope this gave you something to think on and reflect on in today's Tuesday Trauma Tip.
And as always,
KEEP LEARNING - KEEP GROWING - KEEP LOVING
💜🩷♥️
Dawn
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Post Adoption (Mom) Coach
“STANDING IN THE GAP FOR SECOND MOMS in Adoptive & Blended Families
As a Certified LifeMapping(R) Coach, Dawn helps Christian adoptive moms navigate the challenges of their non-traditional families with their own brand of (faith fueled) success!
DISCLAIMER: I’m a coach, not a doctor nor a therapist. As a coach I do not offer mental or medical health diagnosis, treatment or cures. Furthermore, I am no longer a practicing attorney and do not offer individual legal advice. For individual advice related to your own personal situation I recommend you seek out an appropriate professional. Coaching may fill a spot in your overall support network.
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Copyright © 2025 Dawn T. Baggett, JD - All rights reserved
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