THE POST ADOPTION MOM COACH

Providing Post Adoption Support from a Biblical Perspective for “Second Moms” in Adoptive & Blended Families




Emotional Support

Emotional Boundaries for Second Moms

Emotional Boundaries for Second Moms
Today’s topic is emotional boundaries.  
In particular on this episode I’m focusing on emotional boundaries for moms like me.  In many of our adoptive families children have suffered an enormous degree of trauma and in particular the loss of not only their first mother but other caregivers as well in their formative years. 

Different Types of Boundaries
You’ve seen & heard quite a bit about setting boundaries by now I suppose.  And perhaps you have a good grip on what it means to set personal boundaries with others, and have even put this into practice in your own life. Even so, to make sure that we’re on the same page today, you need to know that what I mean by the word “boundaries” is that dividing line (boundary) you make to protect something of yours from trespass by another that says you will not continue past that line (boundary) with the other person.  In practice it may sound something like, “I will not continue listening to you yell obscenities at me;” a boundary to protect your finances might sound like, “I will not continue paying you while your work is unfinished;” one to protect property – “I won’t leave without locking the door first”; one to protect physical safety –  “I won’t stay in the house where there are unsecured weapons.”

With all these various boundaries to protect different things, there may be an emotional component. But today I want us to pick apart and focus primarily on emotional boundaries. You may set boundaries to protect your time, your physical body, your work/ability to get work done, your belongings.  You can also set boundaries to protect your emotional safety. 


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Churches - we need you! Tips to Support Second Moms

How Churches Can Support Women who are Moms in Complex Families such as Adoptive Moms & Step-Moms

Just imagine…You're a mom, and you're not the child's first mom. They don’t automatically look to you as their home base, as “mom”.  You feel alone, unsupported, and like you don't quite fit in anywhere, and while your church has been an integral part of your life for years, you’re feeling less and less connected, less and less understood, less and less supported.
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Secret Risks for Second Moms: Burnout, Compassion Fatigue or Secondary Trauma


You May Be at Greater Risk for Burnout, Compassion Fatigue or Secondary Trauma!

As an adoptive mom you may be at a heightened risk for burnout, compassion fatigue or secondary trauma as primary caregiver for high need children and teens.  In many adoptive families the children have suffered an enormous degree of trauma and in particular the loss of not only their first mother but other caregivers as well in their formative years. This can impact them long-term in various ways, complicating your role as their parent-caregiver. 





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Dawn Baggett & Post Adoption Coaching

 

Hi there, I'm Dawn Baggett! 

As a mom in an adoptive family that includes the blending of both, biological and adopted children, I've been through it all—navigating attachment issues, trauma, special needs and chronic illness...with challenges & chaos that have both tested and refined my Christian faith.   

In addition to my own personal parenting experiences, my law degree from the University of Alabama, various certificates and courses on topics ranging from coaching to trauma to relationships, as well as my research & observations of the experiences of others have all brought invaluable insights into supporting adoptive moms like myself.  I found that patterns and dynamics that I struggled with were often the SAME ones that were repeated again and again in other homes of adoptive families like mine and within those of similar "second moms" like step-moms and kinship caregivers who are raising children and teens that have had a break (for whatever reason) from their first mom. 

I truly believe in the power of faith-driven coaching to support "second moms" navigating the unique challenges of raising children with these often-complex backgrounds. My mission is to stand with you, offering guidance and understanding when the rest of your world seems unsure how to help, or even multiplies the problems that you are working so hard to overcome for your child and your family. 

If you're ready to continue your journey with a desire to walk out your faith in your family and mom role in particular, I'm here to be in your corner. Let's connect and explore how we can put together a personal plan that serves you! 

Apply for a free consultation call to discover whether post adoption coaching is your next best step:  

With love,
Dawn

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