One cultural myth that is very prevalent today is that parents must affirm sinful & harmful lifestyle choices that run contrary to God’s laws, or we cause our children terrible harm — like feelings of shame, rejection, fear, insecurity, and to generally feel bad about themselves leading to all kinds of problems for them.
It is presumed that parents are unkind and unloving if we do not also embrace and adopt these choices.
Did you know that early childhood trauma often leads to a pervasive sense of helplessness in children?
This in turn can cause them to overcompensate with age-inappropriate independence and rigid control strategies.
If you're noticing these behaviors in your child, know that you are not alone, and together, we can find paths toward healing and connection.
A Guide to Choosing & Pursuing Your Main Mom Objectives
Despite all the Crazy-making Distractions & Drama of your Adoptive/Blended Family!
The goal of every Second Mom (adoptive or other permanent mom raising a child she didn’t give birth to) is to be the best mom she can be for her child, right?!
But with the distractions, drama and (let’s call it what it is) dysfunction” that are so common in non-traditional families like ours” it can be hard to keep from losing track of those things that are most important or even know what real “success” even looks like for us. (Sometimes, it’s just getting through the day it seems!)
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