Most adoptive moms and other second moms have lots of ideas, expectations, wishes & dreams about being successful in their new mom roles.
But as a practical matter, even after years in, second mom will often have a fuzzy definition (if any) of what it means for her to truly be successful in this non-traditional role. Or how this role impacts the other roles, relationships & areas of her life.
We get stuck wondering things like,
“How can I get her to stop lying?” or
“Why won’t he do what I say without blowing up?”
When you’re unsure what to do, it’s hard to move forward & easy to feel like you’re failing.
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If your adopted child has no memories or very limited memories about their life prior to coming to live with you, does that mean that any trauma they suffered has no effect because they don't remember any of it?
Let's find out.
This episode of 2nd Moms Circle for Christian Adoptive Moms is a bonus Tuesday Trauma Tip. I'm Dawn Baggett, your host and post-adoption mom coach. Understand that I am not a doctor or a therapist, and nothing in this podcast content is offered as medical or mental health diagnoses, treatment, or cure.
That said, it's my goal to keep these bonus episodes short. So, here's your trauma tip for today:
Today's Tuesday Trauma Tip
Do not rely on what a child explicitly remembers to judge whether some past experience or trauma affects them in the present.
Just because they were “too young to remember” or can't recall prior early childhood, or even pre-birth traumas, it doesn't mean that a child isn't affected and doesn't have lingering effects of an earlier trauma.
I wonder how understanding this Tuesday Trauma Tip can help you today in interacting with your child, your teen, or even your young adult who may have been affected by early childhood trauma.
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And as always,
KEEP LEARNING - KEEP GROWING - KEEP LOVING
💜🩷♥️
Dawn
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Post Adoption (Mom) Coach
“STANDING IN THE GAP FOR SECOND MOMS in Adoptive & Blended Families
As a Certified LifeMapping(R) Coach, Dawn helps Christian adoptive moms navigate the challenges of their non-traditional families with their own brand of (faith fueled) success!
DISCLAIMER: I’m a coach, not a doctor nor a therapist. As a coach I do not offer mental or medical health diagnosis, treatment or cures. Furthermore, I am no longer a practicing attorney and do not offer individual legal advice. For individual advice related to your own personal situation I recommend you seek out an appropriate professional. Coaching may fill a spot in your overall support network.
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In this introductory episode of my new series about what I’m describing as “planting seeds” in our adoptive families, I want to go over some of the obstacles you may face as an adoptive mom: obstacles to planting the good seeds, seeds of love, seeds of learning, and seeds of growth. You’ve probably seen and heard me say over and over again to keep learning, keep growing, and keep loving” and that’s as much an encouragement I want to give to you as it is a reminder and encouragement to myself. I wanted to dedicate this series of episodes to these three topics.
So as we get into this series, I decided to first talk about the seven obstacles to planting good seeds in this introductory episode.
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